Child Abuse

Child abuse is more than bruises and broken bones. While physical abuse might be the most visible, other types of abuse, such as emotional abuse and neglect, also leave deep, lasting scars. The earlier abused children get help, the greater chance they have to heal and break the cycle—rather than perpetuate it. By learning about common signs of abuse and what you can do to intervene, you can make a huge difference in a child’s life.

Physical abuse is just one type of child abuse. Neglect and emotional abuse can be just as damaging, and since they are more subtle, others are less likely to intervene.While it’s easy to say that only “bad people” abuse their children, it’s not always so black and white. Not all abusers are intentionally harming their children. Many have been victims of abuse themselves, and don’t know any other way to parent. Others may be struggling with mental health issues or a substance abuse problem.

Child abuse occurs all over the world and it sadly happens everyday. There is different types, sexual abuse, beating. (etc) Many children are young and don’t know how to handle the problem. Child abuse doesn’t only harm children it may cause death, suicide, depression, cutting, drawings, pulling out hair, no social life and many more. If a child is being abused, there may be some reasons why, your parents may be drunks, “your not good enough” or the parent is stressed. Child abuse doesn’t only happen in poor families or bad neighborhoods. It crosses all racial, economic, and cultural lines. Sometimes, families who seem to have it all from the outside are hiding a different story behind closed doors. While abuse by strangers does happen, most abusers are family members or others close to the family.

Teen Relationships From a guys Perspective

Guys tend to believe that its ok for people to start having relationships earlier than parents and even girls believe its ok. They also take longer to get more serious about a romantic relationship then girls do. They think that a relationship is serious when you are in love and are thinking about being life partners in about two or so years. Most guys are also less careful about going into a relationship. They die into them faster then girls. Studies also show that guys are less influenced by their parents relationship then girls are. How they view their parents relationship has a little bit of impact on their relationships in the future but not a big amount. 5% of guys believe that their parents relationship is bad. 33% of guys believe that their parents relationship is ok. Only 62% of guys believe that their parents relationship is good. That’s a little bit concerning because that impacts how they view relationships now and how they will continue to view relationships as they grow up.

Violence and Suicide Prevention

In todays society there are many negative violent influences that are affecting people. (Children and teens/adults) In the community we have a hard time figuring out ways to prevents this. One of the many ways to prevent this is to start teaching, that violence is bad, at a very young age.

Teach younger kids how to use there common sense when dealing with violent situations.  We have to teach the to problem solve and to change the underlying conditions that contribute to violence-in homes, schools, and neighborhoods-prevents violence from occurring in the first place.  We need to start to get them involved, maybe to even have a whole class for anti-bullying and violence prevention.

The world health organization estimates that about 1 million people die each year from suicide. This is because most of the teen age years are a huge roller coaster of emotions (Sometimes caused by violent acts against each other).

But this is also because of the violence spreading throughout schools and communities. This has gotten so bad that scientists estimate that every American is affected directly or indirectly by violent acts. This is also affecting every individuals mental, physical, and social wellness.

Over time, schools and communities have learned that their is no “one size fits all” approach to preventing violence.  Communities can help reduce youth violence by developing a city-wide strategy that combines prevention, intervention, treatment, and reentry strategies. The National Forum on Youth Violence Prevention is working inside communities to destine these strategies.

Some of the best ways to help deal with violent is to talk to counselors, trusted adults, or professionals about the violent affecting you or someone around you. These people can help come up with better ways to help and stand up, in ways that do not repeat the violent cycle.

One of the best things that you can do is get involved in your community with helping to prevent violence. Whether it is verbal or physical violence, you can help.

I’m Thinking of Suicide. How Can I Stop?

If you start thinking about suicide you need to get help right away! When things are so bad and suicide seems like the only way out of it, it is usually a sign of depression and discouragement. Suicide is not the only choice, but feeling depressed and trapped may seem like it. When is comes to suicide you need to get help from somebody that knows what you are going through and how to help. A psychologist, psychiatrist, or other trained behavioral health professional can give you that support.  When it comes the time where you need to find a trained behavioral health professional you need to go to someone that you really care about and trust. This should be somebody that is in your family or maybe even a counselor at your school. Once you find somebody start the conversation by saying “I’ve been having a really rough time lately and I’ve beenthinking about suicide, I need your help.” Ask that person to help you find a support group and a counselor. Then you can go on from there. You can also call this number ( 1-800-suicide )

Link I used  http://kidshealth.org/teen/expert/depression/stop_suicide.html#cat20124

What is Bullying and How to Prevent

Bullying is not a new thing, it’s been around for a long time. However, it can be stopped you just have to know how to prevent it and how to talk to someone. Bullying is a person or group that repeatedly tries to harm someone weaker or that they believe is weaker. It’s a horrible thing to do to a person Even if you’re not being bullied you don’t want to just stand around and watch it happen. Don’t be a bystander stand up for the person who is being bullied, but don’t be rude to the bully try reason with them get them to stop. Some bullies are just following from example from home or from what they have seen. If you give the bully a reason to go on with the bullying. You would just make the fire worse, if you don’t give them enjoyment it will stop. However, if it involves violence immediately seek an adult for help. Do not try solve it by yourself it won’t only turn out worse. Children that bully or are bullied can develop mental problems in later life and it can affect their life. They can also have academic problems while growing up and effect what career path they can follow. Although bullies can make your life horrible, their lives can be just as bad. You don’t want to hurt the bully either and if you have been a bully in the past try apologize to the people you have bullied. That’s the first step from recovering from being a bully. Maybe you could end up being best friends with the person you bullied! Even though bullying is a horrible thing and seems like it will never end, it can be prevented and improved so it never happens again.

Making the decision to report

Many kids who have been bullied are severely hurt and never bounce back to the happy person they used to be, which is very understandable. However, some vent their feelings of frustration, unhappiness, and fear by turning around and bullying someone else after they have been bullied. I will tell you now: This will not help you, your family, your friends or anyone around you. This will not heal you, but harm you further. After having the experience of being bullied, being so low and depressed, why would you do it to others? You should make the decision to stop bullying and report it if you see it. Do not become a bystander after experiencing the damage that it does. Make the decision here and now. Post a comment now that you will not just not be a bully, but do everything you can to prevent bullying and make a difference.

advocating for bullying

I don’t know about you guys but I plan do my best in advocating for bullying. Make a promise to yourself and the people who care about you that you will always report bullying when its happening to someone or you. Stand up for people and yourself. Get your school to find ways that will make victims and bystanders more comfortable with reporting it. You can start a anonymous website were you can report it. You could create a club for teens against bullies. Help people even when they may not be your friend. If it were you then you would want help. I promise to myself and my friends/family to never let others get bullied or myself. Make the promise.Bullying is bad, more and more kids are getting bullied. Its getting easier and easier to bully people with social media. In the last 5 years bullying has gone up 30%. While some people think that bullying is just kids being mean and it doesn’t matter very much, but bullying is a serious offense and hurts a bunch people. It makes them afraid to go places and hate life. Bullying is not just kids being mean its kids hurting others emotionally and sometimes physically.

Perspectives of the bully, bystander, victim

The different perspectives involved can shed some light on why it happens and the feelings that go through peoples heads. Many people think people who bully do it because they think it is fun. Yet most bullies used to be the victim. Most of the time people who bully do it because of social issues, family issues, personal history, or for the power. The reason they bully because of social issues is that they get more attention when doing something bad then something good. Comedies and reality television, as well situations in schools, show that acting out is more likely to get attention than behaving appropriate. Families who are not close to each other and don’t give very much emotional support are more likely to have ids who bully. Families that are not warm and loving and in which feelings are not shared are more likely to have children who bully, Families who don’t discipline their kids cans also have kids who bully. The perspective of the bully may be that it is ok or they may be doing it more attention. Bullying are normally people who have been bullied. The perspective of a bystander could be a couple of different things. They could be scare about what the bully would do to them if they told a parent, they could be the bullies friend, or they could  just think that they don’t have a obligation to report bullying. Bystanders always have a obligation to report bulling. The perspective of the victim is most often them thinking why ware they doing this to them. If you are a victim then report it or ask for help from a friend. The support of your friends and being able to look around you and see them with you can go a long way. There are a bunch of different perspectives to bulling but no matter what it is not ok. Bulling hurts people unbelievably emotionally and physically. It makes people think that they are all alone and that people hate them. It is never ok to make someone feel like that.

Sources: http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/why-do-people-bully.html

Friends

How do you think of family? What makes a family? You  may just think that family are the people that you are related to and in some ways your right. Though family is not just the people who you see every day or the people you travel across the country to see. Family also includes friends. Friends are family because they don’t have to be but, they still stick with you through thick and thin and never give up on you. Friends are the people you tell secrets to and never have to worry about other people finding out. Friends can even be the people that keep you together in your weakest moment whether because of family issues or just that your having a bad day. Friends are also the people you have the best memories with. The people you can always count on for a good laugh. Friends are the people that you can always count on, they are the people you need more than ever. So remember don’t loose a friend over something like a fight because friends are like you family.

Be Positive

Everyone has a bad day; one of those days that nothing goes the way you want it to. Your friends aren’t agreeing with you; you lose your sports game; you lose your phone. All of these things are causes of a bad mood and an irritable personality. When this happens, you tend to take it out on other people. Being negative can be the cause of many problems for you as well as your friends and family; so be positive and optimistic about everything you do. You make more friends that way. It’s a lot better to be around a fun, positive person rather then a gloomy, negative person. Besides, being a pessimist can drain a lot of your energy. All that gloominess can make you exhausted. After all, it does take more muscles in your face to frown than to smile! So, think of the bright side of every situation instead of the negative one. There are both positive and negative parts of all situations, but only you get to choose which ones you will focus on. Focusing on the positive can put you and everyone around you in a good mood, while focusing on the negative can just make you feel worse. Dr. Seuss once said, “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” Don’t worry yourself with the negative things. So, learn to be an optimist about whatever happens and always be positive! After all, you can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.

We are all here for a limited period of time, is it worth it to spend any of that time being a pessimist?